Courses and ebooks to help fathers and husbands in their relationships
Courses and ebooks to help fathers and husbands to be more successful in their relationships
Courses and ebooks to help fathers and husbands in their relationships
Courses and ebooks to help fathers and husbands to be more successful in their relationships
Courses and ebooks to help fathers and husbands in their relationships
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Your help is greatly needed and greatly appreciated. I need some help and ideas to make my husband’s Christmas amazing!! It is our last Christmas with just the two of us because we are expecting our first child in May. Help or suggestions…anything you can think of. He loves doing projects and improvements around the house and always wants tools, but he also likes gadgets and electronics. I have purchased a jig saw for him already, but need another gift that is in the $100.00 range or near that…. This is the list that he gave me when i asked for one, but it’s pretty vague.
A Good jig saw
Kreg tool go to the website
anything you can think of for wood working
or anything that i can use outside
any kind of power tool
home depot has some air tools kits (Air Compressors, Tools & Accessories)
For the kreg tool….i have no idea what that is. lol
Thanks so much for your help!
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I am in need of serious advice. If you don’t have time to read this then please move on to the next question. Thanks in advance.
We have been married for almost 5 ½ years. I am currently 25 weeks pregnant and my husband drives me insane at times. I can’t blame it on the hormones because he drove me crazy prior to getting pregnant. Our personalities are so different and although we both acknowledged that while we were dating, it seems I am having more problems dealing with his than he is mine. He is extremely laid back and likes to play a lot. I am the total opposite – always wired up, in a serious mode, and I rarely like to play. I do like to joke and I actually laugh quite a bit, sometimes my husband says I laugh too much, but there is something about him that bothers me. I can’t seem to put my finger on any one thing.
My actions make me feel so guilty and cause me to second guess whether or not I truly love my husband. Although we have been through a lot (him cheating almost 3 years ago and finding out about a hidden porn addiction 4 months after we were married) I know that I love him. He is such a sweet person and has a huge heart but he, like anyone else, has his share of issues. He can be very selfish at times but I can clearly see he is trying to change his ways, especially since I found out I was pregnant. He is overjoyed and really wants to be a better person. So do I, but I can’t seem to get past his childish mannerisms.
We are both in our early 30’s. When I look at him I see a huge overgrown kid. At times he acts like a mature man and other times he acts like an 8 year old boy. From watching Sponge Bob, to soaking cookies in a glass of milk, to drinking the milk leftover from his cereal, to many more things – I don’t know what annoys me the most. He has never been the type of man I can sit down with to discuss bills or an important issue. He basically leaves the important decision making up to me. He goes to work and contributes 100% of his earnings into our checking account, but has no idea what’s going on with the finances. It’s good that he trusts me but I don’t always trust that I’m managing our affairs properly.
I have so many things on my mind, from home improvement projects that really need to be done (he’s not a handyman type of guy), to bills that are due, to planning for the baby – while he sits and cracks jokes about lyrics in a song, or a text message he received from one of his friends. I am a naturally uptight person but with all these things going on I am even worse. I tend to become angry and withdrawn and the slightest thing, regardless of whether or not he meant any harm or not, gets under my skin.
I have tried to share some of the things that are on my mind and he’ll act compassionate for about 10 seconds. Either that, or if he sees I’m in a really bad mood (which in turn affects him) he’ll get upset at me – for being in a bad mood. In my opinion, he lives in “La La Land” and doesn’t have a care in the world. Part of the problem is he is an only child who was very spoiled and sheltered. In his household, his mother took care of all the bills and he never had any real responsibilities until he moved out in his early 20’s. I, on the other hand, was forced to deal with reality a lot sooner than he was.
Talking to him is simply not an option at this point. If I tell him how I feel it usually results in him getting angry and becoming withdrawn, or me getting emotional and it turning into an argument. I really don’t think his mind is in adult mode. I think he wants to act like a husband but he feels more comfortable acting like a kid, or being him as he calls it. I have expressed my feelings about him acting like a huge kid and that seems to hurt his feelings. Honestly, he doesn’t act like a kid all the time but he does a lot of time. It is quite a turn off for me as well. Part of the reason I don’t want to become intimate with him is because of the way he acts.
Last night he came in and in a high pitched voice said, “Hi, Mama!” That’s his new thing lately. I know he means no harm but it drives me insane. Sometimes I feel as if he’s treating me like a baby and I don’t like that. He kept saying he missed me and wanted to know if I’d missed him, but I had a lot of things on my mind and hadn’t really thought about that. Since being pregnant he wants to be right next to my stomach. He latches on to it, kisses it, hugs it, and wants to sleep right under me at night. This drove me crazy for the first few months and I finally had to tell him but I think it really hurt his feelings. He just wants to bond with the baby as I am by carrying him. I am not as nearly as affectionate as he is. I don’t like attention whereas he loves it and almost needs it.
Do I sound too uptight? Has anyone else experienced feelings like this? What can I do? I am afraid I am eventually going to break his heart and push him away.
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